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  • Nicole Sherwin

The best sex toys and tips according to a sexologist

Updated: Oct 20, 2020

There are quite literally millions of options to help you maximise pleasure, so we've consulted the expert, sexologist Jasmine Zahner, for her top recommendations.


Let's talk about SEX, ba-by! Where to even begin?! Well, you probably began when you were 16 at a house party, or you know, something classier, but it probably wasn't a scream-inducing good time; and sex, whether with yourself or with a partner, should be A GOOD TIME!

This week on the podcast, we had a special guest star, our favourite sexologist Jasmine Zahner. Jasmine spoke with us about the 'ins and outs' of female pleasure. Have a listen to the episode 'Let's Talk About Sex Baby!' to hear Jasmine's tips on becoming comfortable with your own body sexually, finding new ways to maximise pleasure and hear Jasmine bust a whole heap of myths about sex (that as a 30 something year old I definitely still believed).

There are quite literally millions of porn sites and sex toy options, so to provide assistance with your pleasure endeavours, here are Jasmine's top toys and sites for:

Exploring masturbation techniques

On masturbation, Jasmine says it's important to explore different techniques. You don't have to stick to what you know:


Source: is basically the sex education you wish you got when you were a teenager so you could actually enjoy sexual encounters from the start. It's an educational subscription website that, says Jasmine, "Shows women masturbating and them talking about how they masturbate and their experiences with masturbation. It will show you explicitly a woman masturbating and the different techniques and rhythms and motions that they use and then you practice those and try them on yourself and see whether you enjoy them or not."

Sex Toys

With so many options on the sex toy market, Jasmine's made it easy by directing us straight to the good stuff!

Clitoral and G-Spot

Only around 25-30% of women can climax from penetration, so for most women, these toys will be optimal:

Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

'Adds to cart' Source:

This product is a lot. According to, "Tailor-made orgasms are on hand with Greedy Girl, a G-spot rabbit vibrator that combines silky silicone with 36 possible vibration mode combinations. Not one, but two motors power the vibrations in the shaft and clitoral stimulator of the Greedy Girl rabbit vibe. The motor in the curved shaft is bursting with 3 speeds and 9 patterns of vibration for an intense G-spot massage." Not sold? Maybe these reviews will get you over the line:

"Well what can I say! Not a lot while I’m using it!"

"Wow. I never knew I had it in me. The blended orgasm. What a winner. This vibe is so soft and lands exactly where you want it to for maximum pleasure."

P.S. If you've got the 'Shopback' app, lovehoney gives generous returns.

Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

Accordingly to, this product uses "Womanizer's revolutionary Pleasure Air Technology, this sleek, ergonomic stimulator encircles your clitoris with a silicone head, offering 6 intensity levels to gradually build sensation. From a soft flutter to an intense pulse, use the simple interface to send yourself spiralling towards ecstasy with wave upon blissful wave." Plus it's waterproof, so that's helpful.


Jasmine says "Any vibrating butt plug should do the trick, but start small if you're new!"

Lovehoney Get Started Beginner's Anal Kit (4 Piece)

According to the reviews, this is the ultimate beginner kit. It comes with a butt plug, vibrating butt plug, vibrating anal beads and a probe, "Giving you a selection of nerve-tingling sensations, with added vibrations for that extra-pleasurable oomph!"


There is more porn on the internet than, well, anything. But for women, often we don't feel comfortable watching it because it depicts us as objects, and can create unnatural expectations. So, this is porn that's made by women, for women.


Erotic Stories - because the porn pages were NSFW. Source:

Bellesa is porn by women. According to their website, "At Bellesa, we believe that sexuality on the internet should depict women as we truly are- as subjects of pleasure, not objects of conquest. Bellesa is a platform on which community members can find free and ethically sourced porn videos, read intimate erotic stories (and) explore sexual health articles."

Want more?

Jasmine is a qualified and experienced Sexologist, who supports people Australia-wide with their sexual health and well-being.

Jasmine is based in Melbourne, but services clients Australia wide. You can slide into Jasmine’s Instagram DMs for enquiries and bookings: @jasmine.zahner.sexologist

Hear more from Jasmine in our podcast episode, 'Let's Talk About Sexy Baby!'


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